The Impact of Discrimination in Parenting-Rich a study in what not to do.

Rich

Have you ever met a man that didn’t seem to know how to grow up. I did, and unfortunately, I worked for him. He was the first person I met who acted like a selfish twelve-year-old boy. It was hard to believe he grew into a man.

Rich was tall with silver hair and jolly which complimented is weight, he had that widows-peak hair line. Think of little Eddie from the Monster’s as a middle-aged man. He had a devilish smile most likely to match his devilish personality.

I at one time respected this man.  Then a few parses of reality stepped in. He was a father of two daughters and a son. He poured so much attention into his son and totally neglected developing a relationship with his daughters. His words and actions were so painfully wrong. It was no surprise when one of his daughter’s left home in high school. She later attempted suicide. It was so sad being a spectator to something that was so painfully obvious. The amount of time and conversations spent about his and on his son. Whenever he was asked about his daughter’s he would say things like, not sure you have to ask my wife. Or, they are busy being girls.  He was such a discriminatory parent.

Rich may have been a successful businessman, although there is some doubt there as well. He certainly was not a successful father to daughters or a loyal husband.

He ruined the financial lives of several of my employees. He also destroyed the family life of one. He had an affair with a woman. He promoted her into a position of power that she was not qualified for. He lost millions of dollars in accounts. I was the one who had to deal with the fallout and the clean-up. Maybe I became a stronger person because of this experience, but I would not wish it on anyone. I most likely suffered a bit of a nervous breakdown because of it.

If this little story helps any dad out there to wake up, then it was worth writing. One should be a good and equal Dad to sons and daughters alike.  Affairs in the workplace, unfortunately, will always happen. It takes two and women and men both need to work hard at stopping this behavior.